Why choose counselling?

Do you ever think that your life could be so much happier or more satisfying than it is? Do you feel sometimes that you let yourself down, or that you undermine yourself and your relationships with other people?

Counselling changes lives

Counselling really does change lives. I’ve experienced it myself and I’ve seen it happen with dozens of people I’ve worked with – which is why I love this work so much.

Many of us grow up with negative influences around us: indifference, criticism, insecurity, rejection, sometimes even hostility and aggression. As we grow up we find ourselves absorbing these energies, and in adult life they show up as low self-esteem, as anxiety, as outbursts of rage or as depression. They interfere with our work, with our relationships and with our ability to enjoy and make the most of our own lives.

Dealing with negativity

My aim is to work with you to get the negative voices and feelings under control, to create distance from them and allow your more positive and creative side to come forward. I’m kind, patient, perceptive and supportive, and I’ll never judge or criticise you. Whatever difficult places we might go to in our work together, you can be sure that I’ve been there before in my own long therapy journey and training. That makes me a safe and trustworthy guide.

What happens

I provide a space where you can be seen and heard exactly as you are. You can share and give voice to feelings and thoughts which you could never express even to your nearest and dearest – knowing that it all stays in the room and is totally confidential. Whatever you bring to our sessions, it will be accepted and welcomed as a part of who you are.

Together we’ll explore the patterns of the things you do or say that you wish you didn’t, and the feelings and thoughts you wish you didn’t have. We’ll look at what triggers them, what makes them better or worse, and what the origins might be. You’ll learn bit by bit to be a wise and compassionate friend to yourself – to be your own counsellor in effect. That way you’ll gradually become able to support and guide yourself into a life which reflects the best of who you are.

I’ve been trained in many kinds of personal development work, including bodywork, psychodrama, couples therapy, and psychodynamic and psychospiritual counselling. I’m fully insured, and as a registered member I work within the ethical and professional framework of the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists – the country’s no. 1 official association.

I believe that no one has to put up with suffering or difficulties which are more than they can bear, and that we all have the potential to transform our challenges in a positive sense - to become happier, more compassionate, and more alive. That’s the transformation which l aim to help you to bring about in your own life.